Remember he got with you because of who you were, not who he thought you would become. Often times we conform to a relationship leading to us forgetting who we are and no balance. Yes we all change constantly and hopefully for the better. What’s important is to have an equal balance in your relationship and maintain your life.
Obligation leads us to feeling torn between the two. In reality partying every night with your girlfriends, will come to an end because that’s living single. Agreeing to be in a relationship offers the stability your friends are still searching for in the club. You still owe them your time, birthdays are the greatest way to have that balance between your friends and mate.
He’s looking at you, in the same dress you wore the night y’all first met. He knows he doesn’t want you to go but it’s only fair y’all keep a healthy relationship. The reason why it’s essential to have that space between the two, limits the chance of resentment of being around your spouse 24/7.
Playing your role, while being you is a reward. It builds trust and confidence that he knows his girl will be his, and yet still be her. It only becomes problematic when you lose yourself before even realizing he is your only friend. No escape no balance, just you and him. You still want to respect him as the man of the relationship but respect yourself first. Can it still work? Will it be worth the fight? Every fight has a winner and loser.